Processing Grief and Loss

December 15, 2020

Last week was a hard week in our community. The local news shared the story of a car accident involving four recent LA graduates as well as losses in neighboring communities. It is important to realize that each of these events may bring waves of grief and worry, maybe without our even fully realizing it. Many of us are grieving right now for all kinds of losses: a sense of normal, important milestones like senior year events and sports games, the loss that’s part of not knowing what to expect week to week. We miss seeing each other in person at school and in our community. These layers can build up and feel overwhelming.

So, what does “normal” grieving look like? It’s a pretty wide range of reactions and feelings and there is no one right way to feel. Grief is the period of time and the conflicting mix of feelings caused by a loss. Though often most associated with sadness and longing, grief can include a wide range of feelings, from numbness, anger and anxiety to despair and even relief. The relief might be part of the grief for a death at the end of prolonged suffering. Grief after a death involves the body, the mind and the heart letting go of the person’s presence in your life. We do not forget, but slowly and painfully we let them go. We each grieve in our own way and on our own timeline.

If you are worried about how you are feeling, whether it’s sadness, excessive worry, or general emotional fatigue, please know that you are not alone and you don’t have to suffer alone. It helps to talk to someone else. We are available to talk with you and can also provide referrals for outside therapists. Reach out to your advisors, your guidance counselors, and your parents. Listed below are other crisis and mental health resources available in Maine.

Take the time over break to really relax and connect with family and friends in safe ways – outdoors, distanced, and masked. Do the things that bring you happiness. When we come back to school in January we all look forward to a fresh start!

Sincerely,

Tory Wright (twright@lincolnacademy.org) and Lisa Katz (katz@lincolnacademy.org)
LA Social Workers

Resources:

  • Maine Crisis Hotline 1-888-568-1112
  • NAMI Helpline 207-622-5756
  • Teen text support line: Text us at (207) 515 – 8398. We’re here for you every day from 12pm – 10pm. This peer support text line is for youth 14-20 years old and staffed by individuals under 23 years of age.
  • National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-8255
  • Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741-741
  • TrevorLifeline: 1-866-488-7386 – crisis support for LGBTQ youth
  • Trevor Text: Text START to 678-678
  • Maine Center for Grieving Children groups and services: https://www.cgcmaine.org/

An online community program offered by the Bunswick school district Wednesday, December 16, 2020 6:30 – 8:30 p.m.